FAKE IT FOR REAL!
Haven’t we heard many time phrases like “Calm down… don’t
get upset over such a small issue” or “Its ok… don’t be so sad”
But the ever mounting challenge is HOW? To overcome such
challenges seems like a lifelong process. Sometimes we even start associating
it with our personality. For e.g.: He is always so stressed/He cannot handle
stress…There are hundreds of personality
tests too which determine our Personality type, hence associating ourselves
with the traits and types of that personality ; AND we start thinking “Oh Yeah,
THAT’S THE REAL ME” OR “THAT’S HOW I AM”.
Something that we accept as REAL, our mind gets conditioned
to reinforce it by a behavioral “confirmation” i.e. there’s a clear congruency
between behavior and belief.
We know all of this … Don’t we?
Daily I come across people struggling with emotions/attitude
like Pride, Greed, Envy, Wrath/Anger, Lust, Gluttony, Sloth (this set of behaviors is extracted from the
Indian scriptures the Shat Ripus: Kama,Krodh, Loba, Ahankara, Matsarya, Moha,Tamasa
and the English version from Enneagram)
Fortunately there is hope because your personality is NOT
the REAL you. These are all ‘Learnt’ behaviors hence I label them as FAKE or
Unreal or Unnatural. These I term them as “The Fake-Negatives”
“These Fake Negatives”
need to be unlearnt (which is the most difficult part all of us struggle with).
What would you replace
them with? Obviously “Fake- Positives” cause even these are not real, they are
all learnt. Fake positives are better than the “Fake Negatives” as they makes
our relationships thrive and the universe a better place to breathe!
I am going to share a quick tip here:
1. At a thought level: Be Aware of your thought(
the Fake negatives)
2. At the energy level: Give a 5 second gap( Seek
divine light with the below stated affirmation)
3. At the Action level: Do the opposite of what
you would otherwise do (replace with “The
Fake- positives”)
Thought
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Energy
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Action
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Vices
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5 second gap
Affirm
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Corrections
to the vices
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Mada/Ahankara:Pride:
Vain
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I conquer my pride with humility as my powers are
borrowed from all. I humbly move
towards the path of oneness
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Seek forgiveness, Do a oneness meditation,
consciously use kind words
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Lobh: Avarice/Greed: Hoarding
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I am secure and capable of spreading love and
harmony.
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Do some charity work, Learn the “Joys of giving”
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Matsarya: Envy: Gossiping
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I succeed for myself and not for others
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Seek inspiration for what you envy, have faith in
self, avoid comparisons
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Krodh: Wrath/Anger: Temper
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I overcome my anger for myself and not for others
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Accept unfairness, don’t seek perfection, and accept
people as they are. “Say “Om” and stay calm”
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Kama: Lust: Excessive drive
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I am loved, I
am capable, I am safe and secure
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Seek balance in life, seek moderation, learn the art
of self-discipline , surround oneself with spiritual souls, have a purpose in
life in harmony with the universe
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Moha: Gluttony: Temptation
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I am capable/My mind is active
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Learn the art of self-control, discipline the mind
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Tamasa: Sloth: Inactive
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With my life energy fully awakened, I receive more
freedom, openness and abundance
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Consciously be active, enroll for art, dance, sports,
Look at the positive aspects the day has to offer, take one day at a time(
live in a 24 hour compartment)
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You can also use
various Mudras like Prana, Anjali, Akasha, Lotus appropriate to the thought
along with the affirmations.
Nothing is REAL. There is no real you, no real me. Nothing
can define us as we are constantly changing. There is only Swadhaya- constantly
checking oneself, challenging and changing- that’s when we move towards
Nirvritti i.e. growth or development
The physical evolution
of humans is complete, the vertebrae can’t get better…there is nothing more to
it… Now is the time for the evolution of the mind. It’s got a long way to go!
P.S. It’s not
necessary to do any of the above---“Transformation is a
choice- Not a compulsion”- Sulochana Amin
Sulochana Amin
Corporate Trainer
Industrial Psychologist
Psychotherapist
NLP Master Practitioner
Past Life Regression Therapist
