Happiness the new age misery!

Happiness the new age misery!

 Longing for happiness in itself is a miserable situation to be in. 

Think about it based on your age

- 10 years ago you longed for it and today the longing is still intact.

-20 years ago …..

-30 years ago…

Every moment you stop longing for it and starts living it will be the sweetest moments of your life!

These four quadrants might be able to give you more insight. The idea is to move from quadrant 1 to quadrant 4.That in itself could be “purpose of life” for many!

Quadrant 1: These type of individuals actually thrive on problems and issues. As they might have gone through a lot of struggle in their childhood , all they want is “challenge” to feel worthy!

Quadrant 2: These type of individuals realize that life comes with its ups and downs. They feel miserable at times but know how to bounce back. These are optimistic individuals who suffer but also enjoy life. Maximum number of population will fall in this category.  “Well dressed :  happy sometimes and depressed sometimes!”

Quadrant 3: These type of individuals have progressed and they realize that happiness and misery is a choice. They understand that there is no individual who “has it all”. Ups and downs are part of life.  Every day they can choose to magnify happiness over misery – The choice is theirs and so will be the consequence.

They make conscious choice to be happy and a conscious choice to accept misery and take it in their stride. 

When you accept misery, it does not remain misery anymore. It’s now an action item to be solved or to be overlooked or to move on)- Healers, therapists, winners ( people with winners script-TA* term) fall under this category.

Quadrant 4: These type of individuals enjoy the moment of happiness as well as misery, but do not stay there. Being joyous is their nature. They follow detachment at will.-

Who will qualify for this category? The first thought that might come to your mind is an enlightened being or a “guru” however, that’s not  the case.  Anyone who wish to be in this category, can be !

Close your eyes and say to yourself 7 times: “I choose to detach from my attachment (Think of a particular attachment -people/things/situations/emotions)  at my Will”. Give yourself a “Happy New Day” everyday!

*Transactional Analysis

-Sulochana Amin

Corporate Trainer, Psychotherapist, Visiting Faculty- HR

 

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A quick update about myself:

I moved away from my cushy job as an Assistant Vice President- Change Management (transforming processes) to pursue my passion of transforming people. I bring along  work ethics like sincerity, transparency, domain expertise, building and maintaining cordial relationships ,an optimistic attitude and I take responsibility for my actions. I believe that every problem has an embedded solution which needs to be unearthed.

In my initial years, I worked on CRM, lean six sigma, quality circle,5S projects, BPMN and later on levitated towards psychology and psychotherapy. I am a corporate trainer, psychometric assessor, a clinical hypnotherapist and a master NLP practitioner currently pursuing transactional analysis. The reason for venturing into all the stated fields of psychology is ‘cause I strongly believe in holistic value additional and transformation rather than providing just about "lip service". I am an optimistic seeker, an adventurer traversing the deep recesses and dynamics of the human mind for helping individuals lead a happy and stress free life.

My mother is a gifted healer and somewhere I would like to believe that there has been some divine intervention to have been born to such a blessed soul.

When I am not training or teaching or learning, I get into a psychotherapy session. My favourite (so far) type of people have been kids and teenagers as they are curious, non-judgmental, open to new ways of healing to enhance their skills, and above all: Are ready to feel “happy” once more.

That’s about me. I have been as transparent as possible and I have my ex- colleagues as well as my ex- bosses on this platform too. :-)

To know more you may check my blogsite and if you feel we can work together , please send a message in my inbox.Cheers to a good life!

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Kindness is not FREE!

Kindness is not FREE!

Nor are compassion, love, humility, courage amongst others.

Logically speaking, anything that’s free ‘in oneself” should be freely flowing “out of oneself” isn’t it?

So all the goodness stored in us is stuck between the huge boulders of vices such as ego, pride, anger and other stoppers!

A couple of challenges in this process

Challenge #1: I can be kind and loving to 99% of the people, but there are some of them I cannot be kind to, as I cannot get along with them?

Answer : consciously ‘be kind’ to them(physically or mentally)- These are the people who will help you move your boulders!

AND, be kind for NO REASON!  - the question  ‘Why should I?” is a huge stopper!

Challenge #2: I have been abused / criticized and I keep being abused by them. How can I be kind to them?

Answer: You can keep your distance with them, but being kind, loving and nonjudgmental towards them ( in your thoughts) is the key!

A free flowing tap, flows freely for all–irrespective of who it is!

So, would you want to experiment with yourself? Would you want your kindness and love to freely flow through you? Try the below 2 minute activity:

 (TIY) Try it yourself:

1.      Test check if you can be kind to yourself?

a.      Stand in front of a mirror, if you are at work or do not have access to a mirror, then a blank computer screen, or a mobile will help too!

Look into your eyes and say to yourself with a smile “ I love you”-  10 times. (many find it difficult, awkward, embarrassing, silly, funny, useless etc.. These are your defense mechanism at play)

b.     Identify your feelings-If you feel good then go ahead, if not, then keep repeating till you feel comfortable with what you say and then proceed to point c.

c.      Look at your features: your eyes, colour of your eyes, eyelashes( upper as well as lower), eyebrows ,nose, mouth, the corners of your mouth, cheeks, face cut, colour of your skin, hair, forehead and keep saying “ I love you’ to every part of your feature.

(For some, this activity will be a little uncomfortable, but as days go by, you will start to enjoy this shift that’s happening in you).

Just do this for the new few weeks or a couple of months and you will find yourself in a different dimension of maturity!

So final words: NONE of the virtues come FREE: People have worked really effeciently and effectively on themselves (to shift that virtue from a conscious level to an unconscious one) to reach to that level of maturity.

For some it’s an inheritance: A legacy left behind by their nurturers whereas some have embarked on the journey with a purpose of creating a legacy for their descendants.

So, next time when someone is kind/loving/considerate etc.. towards you for no reason: Remember: These are “refined” humans who have worked on themselves to reach that dimension of maturity! Its a blessing to have such refined souls as a part of our journey!

#backtobasics#not a motivational article but a practical reality & necessity#

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